ONE STEP AT A TIME

Graduates who are fresh out of school are the most frustrated lot in this country. And the reason is simple -high expectations. We get out of school thinking that we're going to earn six-figure salaries immediately, buy sleek cars in six months, and rent apartments in Kileleshwa.

The truth is, life seldom works that way. I look at life as a progressive journey. You have to begin from somewhere. You have to use a Matatu to work at some point in your life, and you should realize that there is nothing wrong with that. Your first house might be a small room that only fits your bed. Again, there is nothing wrong with that.

The point is, life has to begin from somewhere. Personally, I don't want instant success. If it's not sustainable, I don't want it. My success must be premised on a robust foundation. It must be forged through sweat, tears, and blood. That way, it will be long-lasting. For that reason, I have to be patient and persistent.

When you have high expectations, you cut out some opportunities. I have a friend who started his tenure wit Deloitte (the audit firm) as a trainee graduate earning only 30K. This figure can barely sustain you through a month in Nairobi. Two years down the line, he's earning close to 120K.

If he said that he would not take a job that pays 30K, maybe he'd still be tarmacking. Open yourself to things like unpaid internships if its a great organization. Companies like Safaricom give first consideration to folks who have interned with them when employment opportunities come up. No firm can spend money training you for more than three months then watch you walk through the door to go and apply those skills elsewhere.

Every great company you know today started from somewhere. Jeff Bezos drew Amazon's first logo himself because he didn't even have the money to hire a designer. His first office was a small table and a Mackintosh computer in his mother's garage.

For two years, Mark Zuckerberg ran Facebook from a college dorm. By 27, Nigerian Jason Njoku had failed so terribly in life that he had to move back to his parent's house. And in the next four years, he founded and ran Iroko Partners from his mother's kitchen table. Today, Njogu's networth is $40 million.

One of my favorite books is Dale Canergie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People." Today, the book has sold over 15 million copies. But do you know how it started? As a lecture. Dale delivered a lecture which soon expanded to a set of rules printed on a postcard and subsequently a book after 15 years of painstaking experimentation.

Great business start small. Great leaders start small. In fact the smaller it is, the more likely its chances of succeeding. The evolutionary process of a brand (individual or company) is as critical as its success.

A POLYGAMOUS OR A PHILANDERER?

What is more responsible than having as many girlfriends as I can handle? Take it from this perspective, when a chic knows she is the only one in a man’s life, the monopoly overwhelms her. Knowing  she has no competition, she becomes careless and always sulks like a baby thinking she is fully entitled to put you through mental torture and detriment you ,after all, at the end of the day you have no side chic to resort to. Honestly, I really pity the suffering monogamous dudes who slowly but surely will soon be heading to Mathare Mental facilities .God help the poor souls!

Women are funny creatures who fear competition, especially the nagging type. If you as much as dare receive a call from a lady she does not know and you fail to explain who she is, believe me my friend you will end up not knowing what conjugal rights are for about two weeks.

What if another  lady comes into the picture? This would definitely trigger her competitive side ,nothing makes a lady feel more insecure like seeing a hot chic constantly hitting your inbox in whatsapp, constantly liking your posts in facebook and faithfully following your tweets. Your trophy lady would definitely do everything to outdo the other lady, just so to please you. It  is healthy to make women jealous, it is only then that you will get full dose of her romance side.

I know most ladies would call me crazy but I think most responsible men would agree with me.  Get my point clearly, am not saying that a man should  be a philanderer or a Casanova for that matter, am sanely advocating for polygamy but now in campus level. Make it official to her that you have two other ladies beside her. If I may allude to the holy book that we so much tie our faiths to, we find the wisest of all people that have ever lived, Wise King Solomon, with all his wisdom knew it was quite cumbersome to have one woman at his beck and call. He had a staggering number of a thousand! Ndume kamili!

Ladies what is worse? Having a  man who has two ladies and he faithfully serves  them or a man who has only you but  diligently and aggressively sleeps around  with  anything in  a skirt in the name of team mafisi? 

It is about time we became realistic, why be too proud to refuse  to be the second or third lady in a relationship yet all the six to ten men you have initially met in your campus life all stayed with you, and only you, faithfully but after digging your honeypot disappeared into thin air? Honestly it is not playing second fiddle; it only implies the other lady came first, you both have a role to play and the bottom line is that you share one man who is faithful to both of you.

My ten dollar point is;  this does not have to make sense, it is the reality!